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● DEAR ABBY: I found a box of Viagra in my husband's pants pocket while I was sorting the laundry. The box had a prescription label with the date and his name printed on it.

My husband and I share the same bed but have not been intimate for more than 15 years. Our marriage is a marriage of convenience, not love. We are barely civil to each other.

From experience, I know that if I confront him, he will lie and fabricate a story. This is the second time in five years that I have found Viagra. Where do I go from here? — Angry Beyond Words, Ottawa

DEAR ANGRY BEYOND WORDS: The first place you should go is somewhere quiet, where you can cool your anger and ask yourself some important questions: Why have I tolerated a loveless marriage of convenience for more than 15 years? Am I better off with this man or without him? Once you have answered those questions, you will know whether to consult a marriage counselor or a lawyer.

● DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend (age 17) and I (age 14) are having "issues." Lately he's always pushing me around, telling me what to do and exactly how to do it. I try my best, but sometimes it doesn't cut it for him — and I just don't know what to do.

I want to salvage our relationship, so sometimes I try talking about it. But he either doesn't want to listen or blames everything that goes wrong on me. The only time he's ever actually nice is when he wants to have sex, or think about it, or talk about it. I'm really uncomfortable with this, and I told him that. Then he "sweet talks" me, and I stand firm, but he just gets angry and hostile.

I know at our age we are going through so many hormonal changes, but I still don't think it's a good excuse for his immature behavior. But I love him so much — and I'm just lost! What can I do to keep our relationship from going over the edge? — In Love in Anderson, S.C.

DEAR IN LOVE: Though you say you love this young man, he is not acting like someone who loves you. The behavior you describe is abusive and coercive. If you continue to tolerate it, it will land you in serious trouble. You may "love" him, but you have to take care of yourself. The way to keep the relationship from going "over the edge" is to end it.